Part of walking on any path of self-discovery, we discover how much we have left to grow. This can leave many of us dismayed and can even cause people to give up quickly and retreat to the comfort of their past patterns and habits. For those of us that continue on the path, we can use this as a way to beat ourselves up even further. The thoughts come in saying we should have done this or that. We think we should be “further along” in forgiving someone or communicating more clearly. This path becomes one more way we beat ourselves up.
This post is dedicated to each of you who may use your path as another way to view yourself negatively. As a “recovering perfectionist”, I completely understand. Here are two mindfulness tools you can use in the future when that voice rears its ugly head:
- Max often speaks in class of your inner critic. He says we all have one. The key to it is this- when your inner critic comes in, have your inner bouncer kick him out. In this way, you are left in the quiet and you can know you are doing the best you can with what you have.
- My acupuncturist and friend, Steve Capps, once said this to me, “If we waited until we were perfect to teach, there would never be any teachers.” Knowing that we all make mistakes, even the best teachers, freed me to make mistakes without shame or blame.
The next time you use your spiritual growth (or yoga practice) as a way to say you aren’t good enough, just remember it is path and a journey. We are not meant to be perfect… at least not yet.