This weekend I had the wonderful opportunity to travel by myself to visit and celebrate a wedding with my family (parents, siblings, cousins, everyone from Texas, et cetera). I decided I needed to set an intention before leaving to really enjoy my trip. As I was thinking about this, I remembered something Max has said on several occasions. He tells the story of a woman who takes yoga class and the entire time she thinks of lunch with her friend. Then she goes to lunch with her friend and all she talks about is the yoga class she just took. She missed both events entirely by not being present. I have been this person many times before…
I used to spend time at home and think about getting away, needing time for myself. Then, when I actually left, I would spend the whole time thinking about the kids, the family and life back home. I missed both events! Over the past few months, I have really tried to be more present for my family and not wish away any of my time with them. I am not always good at it, but I have not found myself saying I need more “me time” as of late. However, when the opportunity arose to go by myself to California I hesitantly said I would. I love to travel, but always feel guilty when I do. So, I decided to set my intention. My intention for this trip was to be fully present and enjoy each moment. Guess what? It worked.
When I arrived, the first thing I did was take a long, hot bath then I spent my days with family really connecting, not distracted thinking about the kids at home. I knew they were safe and happy with Brian. I had some of the best conversations I have ever had with my sister and dad thanks to the power of this presence. It was nice to really be with them in the same room, connected to the moment and not trying to rush home in my mind. Time seemed to last longer and the return home was that much sweeter.
I have said it before but our gift to those around us isn’t doing more. It is doing less. It is being fully present and taking one task at a time. In this way you will find time is (in fact) on your side and you can fully connect with those around you in a more meaningful way.