Consider the possibility that our thoughts can precede our emotional sensations and expressions. The saying, “We can choose to be happy or angry” might sound like you’re listening to your mom, but we may want to consider this more seriously now that many of us are raising our own kids. Imagine the motivated parent waking up early and doing some deep breathing alone in the kitchen while making lunches for the kids. Breathing in deeply in anticipation of the first interaction with their spouse or child. Upon first sight and first eye contact with this unsuspecting early riser the parent stops preparing and starts greeting their loved one with full-on loving body language (hug and kiss), upbeat tone of voice, kind words of how great it is to see you and what a great day it’s going to be … It’s our responsibility to our children of setting the tone and getting off to a good start. Wives and husbands will benefit too. Another way to start your day right, before you even get out of bed is to create a positive affirmation.
The example above shows how creating positive personal affirmations can create a happier home and improve relationships. During the course of everyday the human brain will transition between the four brain waves or cycles depending on activity, food consumption, sleep and a limitless amount of emotional responses to stress and relationships. I am going to focus only on Theta waves. Theta waves are produced when we are doing a task that has been done with such repetition we can lose ourselves in the process of the effort. The long highway drive to a place one visits often can bring one into the Theta brain cycle. “Where did the last five miles go?” Some people can be in a Theta state when jogging or walking. We all are in a Theta brain cycle when we are just falling asleep and when we are first waking. After practicing yoga postures and then while resting in the final relaxation posture (savasana) we are experiencing Theta brain waves. This one reason not to skip the final relaxation in yoga class or to leave early or cut it short. Skipping savasana is another whole blog entry … This is the time to shape your reality. The Theta brain cycle is when we are most susceptible to thoughts and suggestions. This is typically our most creative and positive mental state. Now is the time to tell yourself, “I will not yell at my kids today”, “I will not argue with anyone”, “I do not need to be told I am a good parent”, “I love my wife and will tell her today”, “I will release my angry thoughts”, “I am whole”, “I will choose happiness over anger and frustration” … The list is endless and we can shape and create our affirmations to directly improve our lives and relationships with all of those we love.
Each day upon falling asleep and waking (when Theta waves are active) choose an affirmation and repeat it in your head until it is clear. Any time throughout the day if you falter, repeat your affirmation again and again. We talk to ourselves constantly all day. It’s time to put forth the effort and crawl out of the ruts we fall into. Now is a good time to start. Anytime, any place, we can choose to positively affect ourselves and all of those around us.