Wisdom from Brené Brown

Wisdom from Brené Brown

Wisdom from Brené Brown

Today I received this wonderful post from Brené Brown, author of “Daring Greatly” and “The Gifts of Imperfection.”  What I love about her is that she can often put into words something that just percolates in the back of my mind for days.  Maybe her words will help you as well.

In all of our processing and / or grieving, let us not forget to take time in silence to fill our hearts and lift up others.  Let us not forget the power of shining your light in the darkness.  And let us not forget the power of noticing (really seeing) the people that surround us.  You never know what a difference you can make.

With love and light,

Liz

for Brené’s full article click here:  Our Stories Matter

Here are my five observations from the past couple of days:

Prayer and activism are not mutually exclusive.

For many of us they are inextricably connected. We don’t need to criticize those who are praying. You don’t have to pray or even believe in prayer, but be respectful (or at least quiet).

Politics is easier than grief.

To skip over feeling and rush to policy-making dehumanizes the process and weakens policy.

Blame is simply the discharging of pain and discomfort.

It has nothing to do with accountability. Accountability requires long, difficult, respectful conversations. Blame fizzles out with rage, where accountability is in for the long haul.

Self-righteousness is a sign of fear and uncertainty.

It has nothing to do with activism or change. The loudest and most vitriolic among us are often the most afraid. As my friend Harriet Lerner says, “Change requires listening with same level of passion that we feel when we speak.”

You can’t shame a nation into changing any more than you can shame a person into changing.

Shame is much more likely to be the source of destructive, violent behaviors than it is to be the cure. We need courage, vulnerability, hard work, empathy, integrity (and a little grace wouldn’t hurt).

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Elizabeth Delaney