How many times on a daily basis do we take the people around us for granted? I know my husband and I do this quite regularly. We get busy teaching class, taking care of students and children, and forget to treat each other with kindness and care. Not because we don’t care, but because we forget how much we do. We get lost in the busy-ness of our world.
This universally-imposed time out (the temporary closing of our second location) gave us the space to see clearly. We needed to clear the space to see one another and our business with fresh eyes. We sat and discussed that we cannot create a community based on kindness, compassion and care if we don’t offer that to each other first. This was a HUGE moment for us. It was a breakdown followed by a breakthrough (to borrow from Brene). One for which I will be eternally grateful.
Now every conversation that would have been heated, misinterpreted or misunderstood is seen clearly. We communicate with ease and are able to take the time to see each situation as it is in that moment. We are able to rebuild our business from our original intention. I can only assume we will go through this renegotiation again and again. After all we have only been together twelve years and with life expectancy as it is, we will be together many many more. But now we have the tools to move forward with kindness and care and seeing each of us exactly as we are.
If you have a partner that you are taking for granted, stop and really see him or her. Really look and remember who the person is at their very core. See him or her clearly and don’t waste another moment.